Dealing with Loneliness
You’re NOT Alone
When the dust settles and we have made all the money in the world, reached the height of fame and obtained the epitome of power, what gives us true meaning in life? Many living things need each other to survive. If you have ever seen a Colorado aspen tree, you may have noticed that it does not grow alone. Aspens are found in clusters, or groves.
The reason is that the aspen sends up new shoots from the roots. In a small grove, all of the trees may actually be connected by their roots! And they spread in all directions, intertwining with other redwoods. Locked together in this way, all the trees support each other in wind and storms. Like the aspen, they never stand-alone.
They need one another to survive. People, too, are connected by a system of roots. We are born to family and learn early to make friends. We are not meant to survive long without others. And like the redwood, we need to hold one another up. When pounded by the sometimes vicious storms of life, we need others to support and sustain us.
I have felt every gripping moment of it. The long, long hours which seems like days, the lonely nights where I weep in silence, drenching my pillow salty with tears, the lack of desire to face the next day and the thought of wanting to end it all! It doesn’t matter if you have a girlfriend/boyfriend, husband or wife. No matter how close you are with them, there are parts of you that they just don‟t understand! The pain doesn’t fade after confiding with your best friend, your group of buddies, or even your counselor! Nobody seems to understand you yet you want them to feel your pain.
I empathize with you, my friend. I truly do. But I have good news for all of us lonely hearts out there. I have survived through and I have a way to solve it if not ease the pain at least. My stories and writings in this book aim to accomplish a few things:
- Understanding the theory behind loneliness to better understand yourself
- Understanding the feelings associated with loneliness
- Developing a healthy feeling of love to help you overcome problems
- Practical steps to break the lonely cycle
Replace the feeling of loneliness with healthy thoughts It is my sincere wish that after you read this book, you will be better equipped to cope with loneliness. Even if you don‟t feel lonely, maybe you know someone who is. Use this information to help them and make their world a better place.